Unconditional love to be precise. 😍

When I heard my coach talk about unconditional love I thought,

“This lady clearly has not met some very-not-lovely people from my life.”

However, I was curious to experiment with this concept.

I thought unconditional love was something you do FOR the other person.

A noble thing saints-like people could do. Loving no matter what.

I also thought that if you love a person that wronged you, you become spineless, weak, approving the behavior you actually condemn.

However, unconditional love is something that you do for YOURSELF.

The best selfish gift.💝

Because the emotion of LOVE FEELS GOOD.

Love never hurts.

What hurts are the painful thoughts taking us away from experiencing love.

The other person cannot feel our love or hate.

We can interpret each other’s behavior as loving or hateful when we make the behavior mean something.

Someone might interpret your action as you not loving them when you didn’t mean that.

Someone might be in love with you and you might have no idea.

You might think someone likes you only to find out months later this person hated you and you didn’t feel a thing!

You might be hating someone and they aren’t feeling bad at all.

Whenever we choose to love or hate someone, WE are on the receiving end of that emotion.

So why not choose love when we are the ones to experience the emotion anyways?

You don’t need to tell the other person or approve of their behavior, you don’t even need to ever talk to them again.

But just recognize that you also don’t need to cut yourself off from feeling love in case you don’t want to.

When I choose love, instead of tightness, I start feeling more openness, compassion, and curiosity. The person doesn’t change but my thoughts and feelings about them change. I start judging less, blaming less, and feeling less of a victim.

I start looking for reasons to love and understand rather than hate.

☑️ If you have someone, that you find difficult to love or not deserving of your love – choose consciously – do you want to lean towards love or hate?

Because love is a CHOICE. And likely, the best choice.