One of my favorite goals I intend to keep for the rest of my life is to increase my capacity to love.

When my coach mentioned it as her goal, it intrigued me.

Until then I saw love as a somewhat limited resource.

A feeling I could feel towards my family, pets, closest friends, the person I’m in a relationship with.

I’d get scared of an overwhelming sense of love I’d felt for the world since I was little as it felt destabilizing, and I was afraid of the drop after experiencing it.

I had rules about who deserves love, how much, and who doesn’t when it’s not appropriate to love anymore. I also believed love can hurt you.

Now I imagine the capacity to love as different sizes – growing from a drop of water to a glass of water, a bottle, a bucket, a bathtub, a swimming pool, a lake, a sea, to an endless ocean…

I see love as an amazing feeling that simply feels good to feel.

That de-dramatized love for me. And my thoughts about love changed.

I see love as a choice – you can allow it to flow through you, enjoy experiencing it, or you can block it, and pinch yourself off from love.

Love doesn’t need to be deserved. I believe we all are 100% lovable.

How much another person loves you shows their capacity to love, and has nothing to do with your lovability.

Love doesn’t need to be restricted or limited to certain people. Love is unlimited. You can never run out of it.

Love is not a reward, and the lack of it is not a punishment to another, because we are the ones experiencing it or the opposite of it.

“I will never love again” is a form of self-punishment. Same as withholding love out of fear to be hurt.

Love cannot hurt you. Painful thoughts can.

Love doesn’t need to impose demands or expect returns.

You can love silently in joy.

You can end a relationship and not end loving, doing it without suffering or needing anything from the other person.

You can completely disagree, disapprove of the behavior, choose not to have that person present in your life anymore, and feel love.

You can simply love to love.

☑️ What do you think of love? What’s your capacity to love? What do you want it to be?